AdultFriendFinder Review 2021

This Is What It’s Really Like.

Adult Friend Finder certainly has an appeal. The tag line is blunt, straight to the point and leaves little to the imagination.

Hookup, find sex or meet someone hot now.

But does the site deliver? Does it provide you with hot hookups and no strings sex it is synonymous with? Are there really swinger couples, singles and hot hookups available? Or is it all a brash rouse, cleverly disguised as the raunchy online alternative to going out and meeting people? 

I can certainly see why users might sign up now more than ever. After all, we are still living with lockdown restriction in place. Even when they do lift, the usual methods of meeting other like-minded people will be off the cards for some time. Do you remember when you could only have a drink in a bar if you were eating food and you were all seated and it was all booked in advance? 

Us sexual deviants and curious kinksters don’t have time for all that foreplay. We know what we want, and we want it now!

There was only one way to find out the truth about adult friend finder, and for that, I had to conduct my research and delve into the world of aff. 

Luckily, I am used to rummaging around on adult-themed websites and have seen my fair share of explicit dating sites, hook up sites and pornography over the years. Would my years of sexploration prepare me in good stead for what I found on aff? Or would I, sex writer, alternative lifestyle blogger and self-certified kinkster be left turning an embarrassing shade of pink, furiously deleting my browsing history and denaying all prior involvement on the site? 

If you are sitting comfortably, (and are not easily offended) I shall begin! 

Who Uses The Site? 

It’s safe to say that aff is huge as in ginormous. But then it should be, it’s been around since 1996! When it says it’s the worlds largest sex and swinger site, it most definitely is not lying. The fact that it has been growing since its conception in the mid 90’s demonstrates to me one thing. Adults love to have hook up sex, and they know where to get it!

We love having sex; we love talking about sex; we love sharing pictures of sex. We like having the ability to meet and chat and flirt and socialise on a platform where we are all there under the same presumption. Part of adult friend finders success is in the fact that it gets straight to the point. Yes, it’s explicit, but it never claims to be anything else. If you want no-strings adult fun why bother looking elsewhere else? 

As you may well have guessed, the site appeals to the masculine wierd brain and is therefore very image-heavy; however, users’ actual split is around 60% men to 40% women. 

I must admit, I was surprised to discover that myself! The average age range on the site is between the ages of 25-44 and it is most prevalent in English speaking countries. However the site is offered in eleven different languages including Portuguese, mandarin, and Dutch. 

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What Are The Pros And Cons? 

The Pros:

  • A large and well-established site 
  • Millions of member profiles to browse
  • A huge amount of features including webcams, local members, sexy chat, members videos, blogs, sex advice, adult movies, groups and erotic stories
  • Easy and straightforward to use. 

The Cons:

  • In order to access some of the features, you do have to sign up to a gold membership. 
  • The site is most definitely not safe for work, should anyone catch a glimpse of your profile! 
  • The ads on the site are pretty explicit and if you are easily offended this is not the site for you! 

Is Adult Friend Finder A Legitimate Site Or A Scam? 

This is a question that is asked a lot, and it is easy to understand why. It looks like a porn site. It reads like a porn site, and it’s x rated, not safe to leave your phone lying around like a porn site, so I can easily understand why people ask this question. 

However, it is a legitimate site, with legitimate members, looking for legitimate meetups. The site administrators have taken several steps to combat the fake profiles and time wasters and this is a positive and encouraging step. 

By providing a picture of yourself displaying your username, either written on a piece of paper, or on your body, you can prove that yes, you are a real human person! You can also change your search preferences to show only the members who have taken this step and have also been approved as real. This is something I would recommend, especially for swingers. 

There may be a few profiles that slip through the net, or old escort profiles that you come across, but the vast majority of members appear to be the real deal. 

The Sign Up And Login Process

Most adult dating or adult sex sites are straightforward to sign up to, but aff is really straightforward! Unlike many other sites, where you have to create a long and detailed profile, adult friend finder makes it quick and easy.

After creating a username and being asked to provide a short, yes short password; there’s no ‘you must include a mix of capitals, numbers and symbols, the password must be at least 12 characters long’ rubbish here, you then select who are and who you are searching for. 

Add your date of birth, your country and city, and you are good to go!

AFF even give you suggested text for your profile if you are unsure of what to put. These range from polite conversation starters such as

‘We are a young couple looking to meet a bisexual woman for fun in the bedroom’ 


‘I prefer to be in charge in the bedroom, and I want to meet like-minded kinksters to explore this with’.

These suggestions can easily be tailored to suit your personal preferences. Unlike other sites that leave you feeling a little apprehensive about what to write, AFF gives you some guidance on what to write about yourself and who you are hoping to meet. 

You can then delve into your profile and edit it to read exactly how you want. You can add details about your physical appearance such as height, hair colour and eye colour. 

Following on from this, you will find a personality test questionnaire and a set of additional questions. You can answer as many or as little as you choose to. They all contribute towards other members gaining a deeper insight into who you are and who you are looking for. 

You can also add a profile picture you can also create a photo album, and upload your own videos to your profile. 

You can track the completion on your profile by clicking the ‘my account’ tab located under ‘my stuff’. Once on the account tracker, you will also see my favourite feature!

A button labelled ‘my kinks’. Here you can really share what you enjoy, what you would like to experience and it will probably give you some food for thought. The categories are designed to spark your curiosity, from blindfolds to biting; it’s a comprehensive list of all non vanilla practices! 

When it comes to selecting who you would like to meet, or who you are looking for, the cupid preferences button is where you will be able to filter through the options available and select certain traits that really appeal! 

Is Adult Friend Finder Safe? 

Privacy is really important. Aff understands that discretion is vital to its members and it has an extensive range of privacy settings that can be modified at any time. Located under privacy preferences, it really is worth taking some time to read through the categories and amend anything you see fit. It’s up to you how much you share on your profile, what you publish and what you reserve only for ‘friends’. Adult friend finder never asks for your real name or exact location details. 

If you decide to upgrade your membership, you are taken to a secure checkout, after entering the card details you are then presented with a privacy policy and terms and conditions of the site. 

As with most adult dating sites, when it comes to being safe and secure online, you have control over who sees what. If you wish to move a conversation from the platform to your personal email or messenger app, you can, but never hand out these details without prior thought or put them freely on display! It’s the same with face pictures; some members have face pictures, some don’t, some only share with selected and approved friends, some members never include pictures of their faces. The decision is entirely yours. 

How To Search For Members 

Let’s get real here, you want to search for people, exchange messages and let the fun begin! The great thing about aff is the extensive search filters; it has so many members, that you can narrow down your search and find exactly who you would like to meet. Once you click on the search tab at the top, a drop-down menu will appear with who’s online, who’s on IM, members near me, Hot or Not (where you can up/down vote members pictures) and my favourite, The Kink Search!

If you want local swingers, you can find them here, if you want kinky couples, you can find them here. If you want to chat on IM live, you can get that too! If you don’t want to waste your time on profiles that don’t have pictures or profiles that haven’t been verified, you can filter through the options on the left-hand side. By clicking on ‘verified members’ you are only shown profiles where the members have taken steps to certify that they are who they say they are, great if you like genuine meets. 

You can also select ‘members broadcasting now’ if you want to get in on the live-action or ‘members online’ if you’re going to chat straight away. 

How To Get Involved In The Live-Action 

As you may of expected, there are a number of ways that you can get involved in the live-action on aff. You can watch live member broadcasts, join adult chatrooms, or use the instant messenger service. You can also see who is a ‘Top Broadcaster’. There are a lot of different members broadcasting, couples, singles, groups, and you can customise your search if you want to watch people from a particular area. 

You can show your appreciation for broadcasting members by sending tips in the form of virtual points. 

The virtual points are accrued on the site by how involved you are. In basic terms, the more you add to your profile, the more pictures you add, the more questions you answer and the more you interact with other users, the more points you earn. It’s not all that dissimilar to karma points on Reddit! The more you do on the site, the more the site rewards you! 

If you prefer to chat online in a discussion, you can join one of the many AdultFriendFinder chatrooms. Pick a topic you are interested in, and start chatting. However, you must abide by the rules of the chat group as other members monitor them. 

Adult Friend Finder Community 

Adult Friend Finder also offers a blog page, groups, magazine and erotic stories. This specialised area allows members to express themselves and share their experiences freely. There is also a sex academy feature that gives members access to articles and practical how-to guides. 

What Are The Negatives Of Adult Friend Finder?

As I wrote earlier, to access the juicy stuff available on the site, you have to upgrade your membership, and of course this comes with a cost. 

Adult Friend Finder is not safe for work! Although it isn’t strictly porn, it isn’t ‘work colleague caught a glimpse of your phone’ friendly either. If you are the type of person who likes to be discreet, you may want to use the site in your own time or make sure you don’t leave your phone lying around. 

There are a few additions to the site which I don’t appreciate, the ads being one! Now I’m an open-minded woman, and not easily offended by what I see, but some of the ads the site displays are quite explicit. However, what you can do, and I have done is to change the content filter to show little to no nudity. This removes the explicit ads and offers you more suggestive ones instead. 

In Conclusion- Should You Sign Up To Adult Friend Finder? 

The great thing about the site is that you don’t need to explain why you are there. The site makes it very obvious that it caters for people who wish to meet other like-minded adults. Unlike other dating sites, it cuts to the point and places sex and intimacy firmly at the forefront. 

Freedom of expression and being surrounded by non-judgemental adults is what aff is all about. If you are looking to express yourself in a safe and inclusive environment, you can. The site is not for the faint-hearted, and it does get straight down to the point, but if you want adult conversation, adult themes and adult fun, then it’s definitely going to satisfy you! 

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