Are Swinger Parties Expensive?

If you type ‘is swinging expensive ‘ into google, then chances are, your search results won’t yield very much! So, are swinger parties expensive? Do you need to flash the cash, or can you be a money-saving swinger?

Does he pay? She pay? Or they pay?

Before I attended my first party, I did precisely this and guess what… nothing came up! So what did I do? I knew I wanted to participate in a party, but how much was it going to cost me, and what other costs would I incur? I had looked online at a few different swinger parties and fetish clubs, some prices were listed, and some weren’t. For some particular nights, the cost varied greatly depending on the theme and who was in attendance. It seemed like depending on what night of the week you visited, and your gender greatly affected how much you paid. 

After reading about a few different clubs, and then checking some out for my self ( all in the name of research), I began to get a solid understanding of how much certain parties were. I also attended some private events and smaller meets, added up the cost and compared! You can’t ever say I’m not thorough! So here, for you, is my tried and tested guide to is swinging expensive! 

Are Swinger Parties Expensive For Couples

If attending a sex club event as a couple, you can expect to pay between £70 to £100 for a ticket. It depends on the quality of the club and the location. Some events are held in specialist clubs, where the cost to hire the premises is higher than a hotel suite, for example. There are some private hire dungeons and clubs with specialised BDSM equipment, and chances are the entry ticket will be higher to cover the cost of the hire rate.

 There are also immersive events are held in hotels; where the cost includes a themed dinner, a demonstration of a particular kink or fetish and then mixing and mingling afterwards. These events cost around £120 per couple, but they are highly specialised plus you are surrounded by like-minded kinksters who are all there for the same reason, so chances are, you will meet some high-quality swingers! 

Costs for single people 

My man on the inside, S, told me that he attended a party hosted by pleasure island parties and he paid £130 for his ticket. Single men can always expect to pay more, and I have noticed that sometimes single guys are charged between £130 and £150 for a ticket to a swingers event that mainly caterers for couple and single girls.

There are, of course, nights that don’t cost this much, and some specific events are cheaper for single guys to attend. Greedy girls nights are such events, and they attract mainly hotwives and cuckold couples. If your a single guy then these type of nights are a lot more accessible for you! 

Single girls, on the other hand, get a much sweeter deal and the entry price for single girls to swingers clubs is considerably less! I’ve seen events that are £30 a ticket! I’m quite happy to pay more than this if it’s a high-quality event! Most nights, if not all, will always accommodate single girls, so the entrance fee is usually quite minimal!

Costs of private meets 

In some cases, meeting couples or singles for swinging in private can be a cheaper option, but there are still costs involved that have to be considered! If you are playing in a hotel or private apartment and meeting with a couple, then its appropriate if you split the bill, even if one of you books it, you should still offer to pay half.

If you are a single girl and the couple pay, then you can either offer to contribute towards the cost or take a nice bottle of champagne as a gesture. Sometimes when I have played with couples, they have booked and paid for the accommodation, so the champagne gesture is well received. 

If you are meeting at a couples house, then chances are there won’t be much cost involved. Meeting at another swingers address isn’t always preferable though, especially if you are a single woman or new to swinging. It can be quite nerve-wracking to meet other swingers, and even now I prefer to meet on neutral ground such as a hotel. 

Costs of swinger holidays

Over the years, I have seen a rise in swinger holidays, retreats and resorts. My good friend S was discussing his plans to take me to a naked swinger retreat recently, and another fellow swinger, C organises specialised swinger holidays both in the UK and internationally. 

After doing some research into swinger holidays, you can expect to pay around £400 per person for a three-night UK based swinger retreat and up to £1000 per person for a European trip. These swinger retreats are all-inclusive in 5* villas and mansion houses as well as boats and mini cruises. They are fully staffed and managed from start to finish, all you have to do is book! Swinger break sorted!  

Extra costs associated with swinging 

As well as the actual cost of the ticket or hotel room, there are a whole host of other expenses that add up when swinging! When your considering are swinger parties expensive? It pays to be clued up! I have found that over the years, I have easily spent a good £200 per night, if not more.

This cost usually consists of a couples ticket, a bottle of something to drink, sex supplies, a new outfit, plus a taxi or Uber to and from the event. If you are travelling to a venue, and plan to book into a hotel overnight as well as attend the event, then your weekend could become very expensive indeed. 

Even if I’m not going to ticketed swingers night, and I’m meeting a couple in private ( and they are paying) I still manage to rack up the associated costs! I’m a woman, and I don’t need any encouragement to spend on looking good to get ready for swinging! However, both genders need to consider things like; getting your hair cut or blow-dried, any beauty treatments you require, ( waxing) transport to and from the venue, new underwear or outfits, sex toys and of course condoms! All these costs add up, especially if you live in central London! 

Membership fees are also applicable for some clubs, and although they are a one-off fee, that usually lasts a year, you do need to be aware that you may have to pay £50 or £60 simply to be a member! 

Who pays for vanilla dates when swinging? 

Going on regular dates can produce some pretty awkward scenarios when it comes to paying and sharing the cost. A while ago I met a guy for a date, it was going well, and we moved to another bar. I excused myself to go to the bathroom, and while I did, he went to the bar to get himself a drink. Now, I may be a swinger, and I may be open-minded, but really? His behaviour was a huge turn off for me. I’m an independent girl, and I certainly don’t need any guy to support me, but this wasn’t polite, and he did not present himself in good light!

But what is the deal when you are on a swinger first date? In my experience, when I have attended a vanilla date as a couple, we have paid, and they have paid. Whether that’s a round of drinks, or splitting the bill after dinner. It becomes a little trickier when you are a single woman, and you meet a couple for a vanilla date. Some dates I’ve been on, the guy has insisted on paying for everything, and some his wife has insisted he pay for everything!

Whereas other times, I have offered to pay for drinks, and have been given the go-ahead from the wife, only to be swiftly stopped in my tracks by the husband! This has then made things a little awkward! What I would do, especially if you are chatting on a what’s app group like so many of us are, is get an idea for what they like drinks wise, or even food-wise, and arrive at the venue early.

If they say they like pinot, order a bottle and three glasses. Have it ready and waiting. That way you can pay your way, guilt-free. If they don’t drink or you are meeting for coffee, order three cappuccinos while you wait for them to arrive! 

 6 top tips to save money when swinging 

  • Don’t spend a lot of money on alcohol; one bottle of something is plenty for a relaxed evening. Many parties have a BYOB policy and provide soft drinks for free. It’s never a bad thing to pace yourself between drinks! 
  • You don’t have to spend loads of money on expensive outfits for swinging. You don’t even have to visit dedicated lingerie shops! I bought a sexy bra and knickers set from Primark, and you know what, it looks just fine! 
  • Suggest a picnic for a swinger first date. You don’t have to go out for an expensive meal when getting to know one another. A picnic is fun, intimate and great for sparking conversation and breaking the ice! 
  • If you have a spare room, or large lounge and the other swingers are happy to meet in private then use this as your playroom. Go town, use candles, incense, essential oils and soft lighting to set the scene and create a sexy, seductive atmosphere. Its a lot cheaper than a hotel! 
  • If you are travelling to an event and plan to stay overnight then why not book into an Airbnb, sometimes you can get a great deal on an apartment that you can arrive back to at your leisure. 
  • Most swingers sites are free to join; then you have to pay to upgrade your membership to receive messages from other swingers or message them. I have used these paid sites in the past, but honestly, the majority of swingers I meet online or in-person come from social media. There are so many swingers, communities and like-minded kinksters out there that I don’t feel the need to sign up to a paid site. 
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2 thoughts on “Are Swinger Parties Expensive?

  1. My partner and I are in the first stages of thinking/talking about swinging and your information has really really helped me feel at ease and answered many of the burning questions I had. Being so inexperienced I had no idea where to even start to look for the answers and the fact you’re a Fleetwood Mac fan is the cherry on the cake as that means you’ve impeccable taste in the most important areas of life!
    Thank you
    Lil Miss Inexperienced x

    1. Hi Lil Miss Inexperienced!

      I’m so happy you have found my work useful! It’s very daunting when you want to start, but don’t know how to start.
      I guess that’s one reason I started my blog! It’s great to hear you are talking about the lifestyle together, that’s a very good start indeed! Yes, I do love Fleetwood mac, in fact, it came on the radio in the car the other day and I turned it up, just to annoy S. I do have impeccable taste, as do you!

      I hope to speak to you soon! Thiskindagirl xx

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