How To Use Discord To Meet Genuine Swingers 

  • Become part of my Discord Server by clicking on the link found within my written content, Linktree or YouTube
  • Create a username and enter the Lifestyle Lobby
  • Engage in conversation with other users, contribute to the discussions, and participate to gain access to more groups. 
  • LIVE chat on the Swinger Social Scene voice channel every Friday 7 pm for those with access. 
  • Users are verified by moderators and by me. 
  • Users are unable to upload pictures; it’s a USDP free zone! 
  • My Discord channel is a ‘Safe Space’ for discussion, conversation and self-expression. 

Why I Chose To Write This Article On Discord

I always like to give people what they want, and this post was requested by one of my followers and fellow kinksters via Twitter. 

She told me that she wanted to get involved with the chat on Discord, but wasn’t sure how to use it. When I told my tribe on Discord that I would be making a video and an article detailing the many uses of the channel, the response I received was positive. 

So, here I find myself on a Thursday evening about to share with you all the details of how to use Discord to meet genuine swingers, learn more about the Lifestyle and get involved in the action! So let’s get straight down to it! 

What Is Discord For?

I set up my Discord channel for people who share a genuine interest or involvement in the Swinger Lifestyle.

It’s a place where we can come together, exchange ideas and flirt without the fear of judgement. I want people to feel completely comfortable talking to others about their ideas, kinks, desires, their experiences and involvement in all things ethical non-monogamy! 

I designed my Discord channel with genuine swingers in mind. Over the last few months, I have been receiving one question:

 ‘Dear thiskindagirl, where can I find genuine swingers?’

A lot of the swinger dating sites do have verification processes in place, and in fact, I write about the benefits of using sites where you can follow these steps.

However, fake profiles and time wasters still exist, and despite the swinger sites best efforts, their genuine users are still plagued with fake profiles and picture hunters. 

This got me thinking… although I do support the swinger websites and do recommend that people join them, I knew that those who were serious about the Lifestyle wanted more.

They didn’t want to be bombarded with explicit pictures, one-word requests and people who would waste their time. They wanted to make honest connections with honest people. 

I didn’t want just to create a chatroom or forum, however. I wanted to build something with strong foundations, based on the very principle that led me to start it in the first place-a place for genuine swingers to connect. 

Discord allows me to engage with my fans on a much more personal level. I chat with everyone, from first-time swingers who are quietly curious to those who know what the swinger lifestyle entails and wish to seek out other couples and singles.

It’s a lot more than just a chat room, and members are certified by me! 🙂 If you want to be part of a supportive social swinger group and meet genuine lifestylers who are serious about swinging, then I have a feeling you might want to be part of my tribe!

How Does Discord Work For Meeting Swingers?

There are many ways to join Discord, and the link can be found across my YouTube channel, included in various articles, or by clicking on my Linkree link. Once you have joined, you will enter the lobby area, where you will be welcomed by myself or by one of my moderators. It is then recommended you read the about this group page. 

How Do You Get To Join More Channels? 

The more involved you are on Discord, the more access you are given to the channels. You don’t have to be involved every day, but getting involved in the conversation and building up connections with other users is a good demonstration of how involved you wish to be. After all, I wouldn’t want to add someone who was brand new to the scene, to a group that was perhaps a little too much for them. Neither do I wish for people to miss out! If you want to be part of the Kink Community, drop one of my Moderators or me a message; if you want to join in the live chat on Friday evenings, let us know! 

The Levels

Please take a seat– you can access the Lobby and About This Group Page

Newbies– you can access Swinger Social Scene chat, Members Questions and Answers, and Swinger Social Voice Chat on Friday nights. 

Sexy Swingers-all of the above PLUS the Kink Community Group (by request only)

Silver Supporters-you get access to the Members-only Question and Answer channel, where you can post your questions, plus access to the lobby to meet and mingle. Plus you are invited to take part in the paid members only LIVE chat that I do on a Wednesday evening. 

Thiskindagirlgroupies-the one that gives you full access to everything! Two live chat channels, all the groups including Kink Community and the Members-only group! 

How To Use Discord

After you click the link, you will have to enter your email address and generate a username to get started on Discord. You will then reach the Lifestyle Lobby, where you can join in the conversation, send one of my moderators or me a message and read the about this group.  

Welcome To The Lobby

I wanted to give my fans and followers a real treat, so I set up my groups to represent a club. When you enter, you will be welcomed into the lobby. Here, you can settle in and then read through the ‘about this group’ page. I’ll never ask you to upload a picture for approval; all I ask is that you are respectful and understand what my groups are all about. Oh, did I tell you it’s completely free to sign up? Whilst you are in the lobby, your status will be ‘Please Take A Seat’- just as it is when you enter a swingers club! Whilst in the Lobby, either myself or one of my moderators will drop you a message to say hello and maybe ask you how you found the channel and whether you think it’s right for you? If you do, then happy days, we shall upgrade you to Newbie. 

About This Group

Whilst you are a member of the lobby, you can click on ‘about this group’ and read all about what each channel offers the members, and you can decide whether Discord is for you or not. Here, you will find how to join in with the Kink Community channel and how to access the Swinger Social Live Chat on a Friday night that I host. With About This Group, you will also discover how to join my members-only area and be part of the most exclusive group on Discord, Thiskindagirls Boudiour. 

Swinger Social Scene

The next group is the swinger social scene, where you can chat with other members and discuss the Lifestyle. After you are upgraded to Newbie, you will be able to access this group. Here you can make friends and connections and share in your swinger experiences. You will be able to discover more about one another and have a flirt! Here are five super easy conversation starters if you are not sure what to say:

  • Who do you think thiskindagirl is? And what would you ask her if you met her? 
  • What is your ideal threesome fantasy? MMF or FFM? Or something else entirely? 
  • What three words best describe you? 
  • What is your favourite sex toy, and where did you buy it from? 
  • What makes you feel nervous about swinging? 

The Kink Community 

After getting to know other swingers as Newbies in the Swinger Social Scene group, you can request to join the Kink Community Group. When you are accepted, you will be upgraded to ‘Sexy Swinger’. To join, simply drop one of my moderators or me a message, asking to be part of the group. 

Like many clubs with a dungeon, I couldn’t set up my Discord groups without having a dedicated BDSM space!

In Kink Community, you can discuss all things alternative. Whether you are curious about the kink lifestyle or fanatical about fetish, this group is for all people who enjoy the flavours of non-vanilla. If you are into BDSM, shibari, age play, sub/dom relationship, this group is for you! If you are looking for other swingers who also enjoy kink play or want to discover more about the scene, here is a safe place for you to discuss! 

Members Question and Answer Area

As the name suggests, you can drop a question in here to be answered by one of the other members. Or you can start a discussion. You don’t have to be new to the swinging world to be curious. This group is great to hear about other users experiences of the Lifestyle. 

Swinger Social Scene Voice Channel

Open to newbies and sexy swingers, this voice channel is where I chat to my members on a Friday at 7 pm. I talk about what I have been working on at Thiskindagirl and what’s coming up next week in the chat. I answer your questions and share with you insights into events I’ve been to, people I’ve met and things I’ve enjoyed over the last week. I also talk about companies I collaborate with and share with you exclusive offers. 

Paid-Thiskindagirls Boudior- The Exclusive Group

Welcome to my boudoir. This area is for members only; after all, you don’t let strangers into your bedroom, do you?

In my Boudior, you will discover exclusive content that no one else is allowed to see. From behind the scenes to details of what I really get up to in swingers clubs, my Boudiour members get all the juicy Thiskindagirl gossip! 

Not only do you get all this, but you also get special offers on my products and services. 

Being a my Boudiour member also means I can share with you products and purchases that I think you will love! From bondage gear to butt plugs, I will be offering my honest opinion on them all! If you want to discover more about swinger social events, I will be sharing details of how you can get involved in the swinger action. 

Paid-Swinger Support 

Your questions answered! In Swinger Support, I will share my knowledge and expertise with you and offer non-judgmental advice on all things non-monogamy, sex, and relationships. Here, you will get detailed guidance and support from me! If you want your question answering, simply pop it into the chat, and I will provide the answers in Wednesday night LIVE chat that is just for members.  

Thiskindagirls Members Only Chat

If you have a paid membership, you also gain access to the paid membership live chat on a Wednesday at 7pm. Here, I answer the questions posted in the Swinger Support channel that only paid members have access to. The live chat is also an opportunity for me to get to know you and find out what you would like from the Discord groups. 

Is Discord Safe To Use? 

I know what it is like to get unwanted attention online. One of the major contributing factors to people feeling frustrated and turned off by swinger dating sites is the sheer volume of unwanted messages and inappropriate behaviour that they are subject to. 

I know what it is like to be a single girl using swinger dating sites; it can be overwhelming, to say the least! 

With Discord, however, because I have the authority over who can post into groups and who can access certain groups, I’m very conscientious of my user’s experiences. Any inappropriate behaviour is dealt with quickly. If you feel uncomfortable, or are being approached by members continuously, or perhaps you believe they are confused about what Discord is for, then please send one of my Moderators or me a message on there. We shall address whatever problems you are facing. 

I don’t tolerate any harassment, judgemental behaviour, shaming or homophobia of any kind. My Discord is very much a safe space for users to express themselves, however they wish to. 

Some users may get frustrated by the lack of videos/ pictures being freely spread around, but I’m sure you will agree with me when I say the last thing the internet needs is another place where people are exposing themselves! 

Come and get involved on social!

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