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What Do Guys Wear to Swinger Parties?

Deciding what to wear for a swingers party, and understanding what that outfit portrays is vital in communicating to other swingers what your interests are, and sometimes, your levels of experience. 

 If your a guy and not sure about the correct attire you should be wearing for swinging, don’t worry! After reading my guide, to what guys do wear to swinger parties? You will be dressed to impress! There’s an awful lot of information out there for women and lots of sexy outfits in the shops! But what do guys wear for swinger parties? And what effect do the clothes a man chooses have on a woman? 

First of all, it is imperative to remember that how we represent ourselves can be a deciding factor in how others relate to us. How we look physically, are dressed and how we present ourselves, are all good indicators into how we like to be perceived and sometimes give clues into our comfort levels. In the workplace, we dress conservatively, in dark colours, formal suits and light shirts. The world of business attire for men is clear cut, and straight forward; you don’t have to be a CEO to be well dressed.

Walk into any high street store, pick out a suit and chances are it will look great in any office environment. There’s loads of information out there detailing what men should wear for work, but no one tells you how to prepare for a swingers party? What is the correct attire? You don’t want to look like you have just finished work! Neither do you want to put people off and wear something outlandish! 

Do you have to stick to the dress code?

What’s not acceptable? And what will get you a thumbs up?

What does your choice of outfit say about you? 

The way we present ourselves sends a non-verbal message to those around us. If you choose to dress conservatively, then chances are you may be a little conservative in your character. I have seen men at swinger parties dressed in a shirt and tie with their suit jackets on all night, looking presentable yes, but way too formal! It’s hard to think of these men as approachable as they look very uncomfortable.  

If you present yourself as smartly dressed, but also sexual, you will strike the right balance between confident and sexy without being too formal. At the same time, you don’t want to look cheesy! A guy with his shirt all the way open with his gold medallions showing does not do it for me! If your attending a party with your woman, then chances are she will of put a great deal of effort into getting ready!

Your outfits must complement one another. The best couples are always equally matched. Remember, you need to be presenting a united front at all times. If one of you is turned out immaculately and the other looks rather scruffy, what does that say to those around you? 

It’s vital to remember that in most scenarios, the woman has the last word. Most women decide who you play with and how. (I am a big fan of female-led swinging) I have been in scenarios where a couple approaches us/ me, and although I’m attracted to the woman, and we have similar tastes, the guy is not appealing due to his general dress sense. It’s not always that the guys are not physically appealing, but for me to see you with your clothes off, I have to find you attractive with your clothes on. 

What to wear for first-time swingers? 

For your first event, wearing something you are comfortable in is vital. Chances are you are both going to feel a little nervous and apprehensive about getting your kit off. Continuously fiddling with your shirt or sitting rigidly because you are not used to wearing a suit is going to send a clear signal to those around you.  

What Do Guys Wear to Swingers Parties?

If you don’t feel relaxed in a tie, then don’t wear one. Wear an outfit that you are comfortable in. Chances are if it’s your first event, you may not be willing to bare all and go marching into an orgy with your balls swinging free! If you turn up wearing leopard-print boxers and wear them from the get-go, then chances are, people will assume your extremely confident swingers.

There are no expectations as what you should wear, as long as you stick to the dress code. No one is going to enforce that you take your clothes off! If you want to remove some clothing, that’s entirely up to you. Should you wish to get changed as the night goes on, again, that’s up to you.

What Do Guys Wear to Swinger Parties?

My dress list for first-time male swingers would compromise of this: 

  • A well-fitting shirt or tight/ skinny fit long-sleeved T-shirt
  • Bootcut jeans or tailored trousers
  • A belt- that matches the colour of your shoes ( I like brown) 
  • Quality shoes! Women always check out a guys shoes- they need to be in good condition and smart. 
  • A watch. Elegant and practical. 

It also makes sense to have a haircut, shave or trim your beard, clip your nails (some men also have a manicure) moisturize and maybe have a sunbed. Of course, you don’t have to do all of these things, but spending some time on manscaping and personal grooming will only do one thing- yield results.

What you shouldn’t wear for swinging

I’m sure I don’t need to tell you this, but I have seen some pretty awful outfits over the years. Novelty boxers, posing pouches, mankinis and speedos are all a turn-off! As are Hawaiian shirts, shorts and ripped jeans! On the other end of the scale, if you dress in a pullover, tweed and braces, then chances are you won’t get any action either! ( unless its a teacher/schoolgirl themed night!)

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